One problem two solutions

It is amazing how quickly your emotions can change. I am talking about about two types of change. The first is when our minds decide that we don't need to be happy anymore and being depressed is the best thing for us. The second is when we get bad news, especially when it involves someone we love. Even with the differences of these two types of sadness, the fix is similar.

We don't have control over either situation in the beginning. Shit happened and now we need to deal with it. What is the first thing we do, retreat and regroup. That is where we stop when we are depressed. We don't try to move forward, we become stagnant.

Shit happens to a loved one, and we get worried and depressed, the same feelings as before, but we usually get proactive and try to help if we can. If nothing else we will listen and be supportive.

Ironically, we feel better because we socialize and interact with others.

I just got a text that a great friend is in the hospital. (The friends that accept your depression and sticks around. The friends you will jump in front of a train for.) I am now depressed beyond belief. My friend is hurting, and I can't help. There is no way I can fix what they are going through. What I can do is visit my friend, bring them books and food the hospital won't serve.

I am truly hurt hurting for them, but I am doing things that will help me by getting out and living. Not retreating into a dark pit and hating what I am. I am going with the tide and doing what I can. I am making the best of what is available. I am talking to their spouse and praying. I am not running to the hospital or freaking out, just doing what I can. Don't fight what you don't need to.